We had a very early Saturday morning staff meeting in November to prepare for the Christmas season at the Gap. I had just come from getting some gift cards from local coffee places as prizes for games that were to be played; that’s when I saw this little cutie’s head, barely peering over the steering wheel of her Toyota Celica as she parked her car (the car is already low as it is, but this miniature female made it look like one of those Monster trucks). “Hey Grandma, wait up!” I shouted. We chatted and I think we talked about perhaps walking in the neighborhood together (I had been walking regularly at the time). After my shift was over at 2p, I grinned as I tugged out from beneath the windshield wiper a note that was inviting me to walk.
That evening, I called to set up a walking time, and a young female voice answered the phone. Confident in remembering her sisters’ names, I asked, “is this RJ or R-r-r–eina,” going for the
authentic approach because the Spanish “r” rolls a bit. Turns out she HATED it, sensing the possible threat I posed in her mind to the future of Ruby and ex-boyfriend.
Well, she got the message somehow and we would go walking together. And what I remember about our walks were her shorts, her fear of dogs, and our talks about God.
1) Her shorts: To this day (and probably until the day I die), I’ll never understand what in the world she was thinking wearing those puny shorts that would cut off circulation on a Barbie doll. But you’re right, I wasn’t complaining at the time.
2) Her fear of dogs: Ruby didn’t grow up around dogs, and, as a result she was fearful of the unknown. Whenever we’d get close to barking dogs, all constrained by secure fences, she would inch closer to me. One time she practically jumped into my arms! There was this one corner home we’d come to when we went a certain route that always evoked terror. Once I learned of it, I always made sure we went that route. /,,/
3) Our talks about God: At the time, my intentions in hanging out with Ruby were completely innocent. While I found her quite physically attractive (see above for more evidence), and thoroughly enjoyed her company, I honestly wasn’t thinking anything outside of a friend. Yes, I know that’s some treacherous terrain to navigate, a no-romantic-feelings-attached friendship that is. But, 1) I wasn’t seeking one (but I think that’s when relationships find you!), 2) she was still so young in my mind (as mature as Ruby was, she was just a sneeze away from being a teenager), and 3) Not only was I not a Christian, I didn’t believe in God.
Ruby shared with me the gospel, the good news about Jesus, and, while we weren’t talking about a relationship between the two of us, she did bring up a bible verse for her reasons as to why she wouldn’t date someone who wasn’t a believer. I didn’t take it personal at all; in fact, I respected it. So much so, that I tried to be even more careful as to not lead her on. I knew what she believed, I knew that I didn’t believe the same thing, and in fairness to her, I wanted to safeguard her heart and not hurt her. It set a nice tone to our friendship that I so much enjoyed. I found myself more open to learning about Christianity, although I still didn’t really understand it.
19 comments on “our little love story: becoming friends”
i hate to admit that Im a creeper… but Ive been dying to read the next excerpt in your story- it's so cute! haha Thanks for the entertainment and beautiful pictures!
This story is, so far, SO perfect. I'm so happy you're sharing it with us, it really brightens my day C:
HAHAH!!! i laughed so loud at Ben's comment about your “puny shorts” !
haha! I'm with the AMG (the first commenter) I too have been creeping around waiting for the next story to come. 🙂 You guys have such a great one!
yay! you posted another tidbit of your story together. I have been peeking in and out to see if I could find a newer post. I love it!
yes! you have left us in suspense! i'm the kind of girl that always asks couples (unintentionally in the most valley girl way possible) “OMG. YOU GUYS HAAAAAAVE TO TELL ME HOW YOU MET..HOW DID YOU GUYS KNOW WHEN YOU FELL IN LOVE?” haha. so these are such a delight for me to read! 🙂
Suuuuper cute story, but… What on earth is “the good news”
How great is our God????!!!!!!!
How awesome your love
thanks for sharing
such a beautiful post! what a wonderful story of sharing the gospel with him 🙂 soooo lovely!
melissa jade- the good news is that Jesus Christ came to save us! if you click on the link to “the gospel” you can listen to it. it is a real quick listen! let me know if you have any questions.
i am glad you all like the story. i love reading it, especially ben's part and it just makes me fall in love with him even more and stand in awe of what God did!
Ruby, love your story! Been following your blog for a while but this is the first time reading it! God is in the house, ain't no doubt!!
I'm LOVING your love story so much! I've been talking to the junior high girls in my small group about only dating Christian guys and I'm happy to have another good example to share with them!
thanks for answering my question Ruby!!
Have I told you how much I love these posts? I love them! Thanks for sharing.
I am so loving you're story! What a great way to share it. I am excited to hear more (and how God continues to move-that's the best part!)
By the way, i really enjoy your blog and love the things you make (cute wool felt crowns!) I just had to stop in and write.
Thanks for sharing it all!
I am loving this story… when's the next installment?? I guess I know how the story ends (or begins??!) but I'm lovin' the details. ; )
oh my goodness this is the best story ever!! am utterly gripped-pleeeease write more very soon, i don't think i could bear waiting very long for the next bit!!
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