bed frame with or without a headboard?

March 19, 2015

with or without headboardwith or without headboardwith or without headboardwith or without headboardHere’s a confession… Ben and I sleep in two different beds. It’s not as bad as it sounds, as it’s two beds right next to each other, so we’re still together, but it is still two beds. He has a firm twin right next (there isn’t any space between the two beds) to our soft queen, and it’s because the mattress we bought when we first got married is killer on his back; it’s not enough support. We had a much firmer twin in a guest room, so some time ago, he dragged that into our room and put it next to our bed. It’s quite laughable and our friends totally make fun of us, and just in case you’re wondering… our marriage is great. This has not affected us one bit. It’s just like we have a super king bed, but use different sheets!

We started mattress hunting two years ago, and narrowed it down to a couple choices, but then we got all freaked out about all the chemicals that go into making a bed, so we decided to look at more natural options. We looked at a couple natural choices, and we love the one we picked out for True (read about it here), but we still haven’t figured out one for us just yet. I have always liked beds not resting on a frame, kind of just low to the ground (which is what our bed(s) are now). But I think it’s time to grow up and pick out a frame (and hopefully a mattress).

I’ve searched long and hard for a bed frame I liked, but since I haven’t found one, I haven’t been in a hurry to get a mattress. Well, I think I found two bed frames that make me dance, so now we are back into bed and mattress discussions. I love this one with a tall headboard (in white), and I like this narrow leg bed frame (in white), but not sure if I want a headboard or not. One day, I want to also put white brick on the wall behind our bed, so I’m not sure if that should weigh in having a headboard. First world problems, I know.

Even when we decide on a bed frame, we are still stuck on what mattress to get, and whether to get king or queen. Our bed is a queen, but I guess having two beds together, it’s pretty much like we have a king. We never co-sleep with the children, but on the weekends they do like to come sleep in our room, so they all drag sleeping bags and sleep on the floor, so not sure if we need a king. I have gotten used to having more bed to myself though, so maybe a king would be best. See, another bed-deciding dilemma… at this rate, we are going to live like this for another couple years. HA!

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11 comments on “bed frame with or without a headboard?”

  • Lisa D. says:

    When my husband and I were first married, we had a double bed. Yep. Looking back I have no clue how we managed to sleep in it hahaha, then we moved and I got pregnant and the sad lumpy mattress from his adolescent years was just not cutting it. We went mattress shopping and my husband was adamant he didn’t want to larger than a Queen size because he thought we would be too far from each other lol. Anywho about 5 seconds into shopping we tried a king size bed just because and he immediately changed his mind. I say if you’ve got the space a king size is great! I love having space to pull the pillows all around me and read stories to our 2 girls at night. I think it also helps with the differences in wake up times, I feel less disturbed when he leaves for work since theres some diffusion of movement.

  • Karla says:

    We currently have a full-size bed (is that the same as a double?). We have a small bedroom, so I don’t know how much bigger we could go. But I feel, if you have a bigger bed, there’s more room to be apart. 😛 As the size of the bed gets bigger, sheets and blankets and other things get more expensive, too. I wouldn’t mind having a sleep-number mattress, though – I’ve heard good things about those.

    • Rubyellen says:

      I know it’s a bummer that the price jumps up so much the bigger it gets, but we all like to have family movie nights in bed and cuddle together, so I think a double would be too small. We tried the sleep number and those are comfy!

  • Kristin says:

    Have you looked into I’ve been looking for organic/non toxic mattresses for a couple years and recently came across this company. Saving up for one

  • Janelle G says:

    I had to giggle to myself as you described how you sleep in separate beds. It makes me think of my husband and I. He gets his best sleep on a couch, he prefers to have his back up against the cushions and when I’m pregnant (which at this point has been for half of our marriage lol) I too prefer having my back against cushions. We have joked that we should get rid of our bed and just put 2 couches in our room 🙂 In our house sleeping on the couch is a good thing lol.

    I personally think headboards are nice since they make a bed feel a little more finished but foot boards are a pain in the rear. Maybe just go with a hollywood frame with no headboard at first? Try out what fun things you could do behind your bed before spending the money on a headboard? That can always be added later.

  • Hannah says:

    I laughed when I read this.. my boyfriend and I have a joke about making a king bed out of separate beds (right next to each other) because one of us is a bed hog…me!

    The only thing I would recommend is to not put up a shelf or framed pictures right over your heads. I read something about it being “bad feng shui” (I can’t say I buy into that school of thought) but mainly it just doesn’t seem very safe.

    Good luck with the bed hunt!

    • Rubyellen says:

      Yes, no bad feng shui wanted! I agree! After getting used to the queen by myself, I think we will need the king because I bed hog too!

  • sgrmse. says:

    You know, funny enough— I prefer without headboard.

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